Wedding Dance Fears Gone by Focusing on These Two Things
By Angela Fayth
The thought of your first dance can bring up a lot of nerves. Many couples worry about looking awkward or stiff, especially if one or both partners have never danced in front of an audience before.
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There are so many variables, and that’s what makes it so nerve-wracking. You never get to practice in your actual wedding attire, at least not together, and chances are, the space where you’ve been practising looks nothing like the venue. The flooring, orientation, and surroundings all change on the big day and it's rare that a couple get to practice in the actual venue.
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The thought of all eyes on you during your first dance can feel overwhelming. It’s easy to imagine tripping over each other’s feet or freezing up as soon as the music starts. These nerves can take away from what should be a fun, romantic moment.
The only constants? Your partner and the song you’ve chosen.
​Focus on the one thing you can control—your connection with each other. By learning simple, personalised steps in a relaxed setting, you can gain the confidence you need to feel comfortable in any environment.
Here are five tips to help you overcome shyness and feel confident on the dance floor:
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Start Simple
Forget fancy choreography if it adds to your stress. Begin with basic moves that feel comfortable, then add personalised highlights to make it special. -
Practice in a Comfortable Setting
You’re already stepping into unfamiliar territory on your wedding day, so practice somewhere you feel at ease—whether that’s at home through online lessons or in a private studio. -
Treat Lessons Like a Fun Date
A good dance instructor should help your first dance to be an enjoyable experience, not another task to check off the wedding to-do list. If you can, couple it with dinner out or something that makes it feel less like a chore and more like a date night/day activity. -
Focus on Connection, Not Perfection
Your guests aren’t expecting a flawless performance—they’re there to see you enjoying your moment. The connection between you and your partner is what truly makes the dance memorable. -
Trust the Process and Practice Regularly
Confidence comes from repetition. The more you practice, the more natural the moves will feel, and the more confident you’ll be when it’s time to get up there and dance. Muscle memory is an incredible tool on your wedding day.
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If you have all of these things down, it comes back to focusing on these two things on the day. The two things that will stay consistent from practice to the moment your first dance begins. Your partner and the music.
Teaching engaged couples for 21 years at Wedding Dance Creations taught us a thing or two about building that confidence in your first dance. Helping you get to a place where you can feel as natural and fun, or natural and romantic as possible.
The second, we know the key to a great wedding dance is making it an enjoyable, stress-free process. Giving the lessons a date night vibe rather than another wedding appointment. That’s why our private lessons are tailored to your specific needs, and our group classes focus on simple moves that make a big impact. For those who need flexibility, we offer online lessons that range from pre-choreographed routines to fully customised dances with ongoing feedback. Our goal is to help you feel confident, connected, and excited for your special day.
Want to chat about how we can help you feel more confident in your wedding dance?
Benefits of Wedding Dance Lessons
YOU WON'T LOOK LIKE A TEA POT TIPPING FROM SIDE TO SIDE
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It's in our best interest, to ensure you look and feel comfortable during your first dance as a married couple. Our couples loving the process and the outcome, is our biggest marketing tool.​
PLANNED DATE NIGHTS/DAYS​
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Leading up to a wedding is hectic. Having these planned sessions together is sometimes couples only planned dated together leading up to a wedding and trust us when we say, there will be laughter and there will be fun.
CONFIDENCE THROUGH PERSONALISED EXPERIENCE​
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For our private lesson couples, we craft choreography uniquely tailored dances to you! In our 15-minute chat we use it to get to know your personalities and the vibe you want for your dance. We understand we’re not choreographing for ourselves, so if you come back in the second lesson and want something adapted, we're happy to do so. We figure out how you each best learn and change our teaching style to suit you because this dance is all about you, and our instructors are dedicated to creating a routine you’ll love. With our years of experience, we have so many tips and tricks up our sleeves to ensure you're first dance is better than you expected!
VIDEOS TO TAKE HOME​
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We know it's a lot to take in so at the end of each lesson we film what we've achieved so far so that you can remember but also, if you haven't had a chance to practice before your next lesson, it's a great visual reminder. It's also very cool to see what you started and how far you've come.
Testimonials
"Learning our first dance became a real
escape for us leading up to the wedding"
​"As someone with two left feet, Adam gave us confidence"
​"We had never danced before and she made us both so
comfortable and gave us a beautiful (yet achievable routine)."
How it
Works
Step 1: Schedule Your 15-Minute Call
The first step is to schedule a quick 15-minute chat with us. This call will help us guide you in choosing the best option for your wedding dance based on your budget, time, and learning style—whether that’s pre-choreographed online lessons, personalised recorded choreography, in-person private lessons, or group classes.
For private lessons, we’ll also go over package options, discuss your vision for the choreography, and ensure you understand how the lessons will work.
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You're welcome to go straight to step 2 if you know which kind of lessons you would like and are happy to get straight to booking.
Step 2: Book Your Lessons
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For online pre-choreographed lessons, simply visit our choreography library [here], sign up for access, and start learning at your own pace.
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For online personalised choreography, designed and recorded to your chosen song so you can learn in your own time at your own pace, click [here] to fill out the registration form and sign up.
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For in-person private lessons, during our call, we’ll have discussed your availability and location. We’ll begin coordinating schedules with our instructors and venue partners (or arrange lessons at your home). Within 48 hours, we’ll email you with available options. Once you've confirmed in writing what works best, we’ll send a confirmation form with a payment link and your lesson details. Your booking will be confirmed once payment is received.
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For group lessons, you can see times and locations [here] and book into whichever suits you best.
Step 3: Preparation for Your Lessons
For in-person private lessons and personalised recorded lessons, we will send you a questionnaire designed to help us choreograph the perfect wedding dance for you. This will consider details such as the style of the bride's dress, the floor size and material (dancing on uneven pavers or grass is very different from polished concrete or timber flooring), and a few other questions. Completing the questionnaire takes no more than 7 minutes.
When attending your in-person private lessons, each session lasts for one hour. You don’t need to bring shoes to your first lesson, but it’s helpful to have them for the final two lessons.
Here's What You'll Get in Your Wedding Dance Lessons
Online Pre-Recorded Lessons
Unlimited - Unlimited access to pre-recorded lessons for as long as you're membership is active.
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Saver - Most budget friendly option.
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Comfort - Learn in the comfort of your own home.
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Flexibility - No need to travel, the only schedule you need to match is your partners and you can watch from any device.
Online Choreographed Lessons
Customised - All the benefits of online lessons but with your song choice and your choreographed specifically for you based off our 15 min chat and your answers in the questionnaire.
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Downloadable - You can watch as many times as you like, being able to slow down and rewatch.
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Review - Film your selves practising, send it to us and we can review and provide feedback.​
In-Person Private Lessons
Skeleton - We bring in a skeleton choreography to the lessons that can be adapted and changed in person on the spot.
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Feedback - The instructor quickly figures out how you best learn and teaches in that way and being in person means you get immediate feedback.
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Scheduled - No matter how busy you get, you can't put your dance off because the lessons are pre-booked which means you will be assured to get it done and done well because you have a pro guiding you.​
In-Person Group Lessons
Malleable – The moves you learn will work with most songs, so you won’t just know your wedding dance—you can use them all night long.
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Party – The class is full of other couples having fun, giving it a party-like atmosphere.
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Simple – You’ll learn simple, effective moves for freestyling—no set choreography, so there's nothing to mess up.
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Discount – If you love the group class but want private lessons later, you’ll get a discount on any private lesson package.